Regrets…..how to deal with that??

So if you feel that your regrets have become part of your life and at times, you have been immersed in repentance and soaked in poignance of your past. ‘It would have been better if…’  is the  constant thought which forms the daily humdrum of your life.  Then it’s time for you to just relax and have an invigorating cup of tea with your best friend. Let there be few regrets in your life.You just need to flick out a bit of extra regrets of your life just like those extra calories you avoid to consume for being fit. Calm down if you have few qualms in life and believe that your little heartaches will never give you headaches! Here there are a couple of solid solutions for how to turn your regrets positively.

Of course, no scientist in the world has invented any pill that can kill regrets and no doctor in the world has any instrument which can pull out those regrets from your aching heart! So the only way is being mindful of the solutions that works for it. Here there are thoughtful solutions that works out.

First, understand the law of nature. It creates absence to makes us understand the value of presence and hard lessons to make your life better. It’s that scorching summer which makes us understand the value of  cold breeze. The tears that trickles down during your hard times only makes you a better person. Without the surpass of a plonking black night, we never view the golden glimpse of the crack of the dawn. It’s those painful first steps of childhood away from your four walls of your confined home that makes learn the first alphabets of life. Tough times denotes the good times to come and pain symbolises the rewards of near future. That means that even sadness can be a reason for you to smile.  We need to understand that regrets come in life so that you make yourself stronger and more mature than you were.

The next way to turn some irksome regrets into positivity is a philosophy which is knowing what old people regret in life and not repeating their mistakes. Two philosophies became acceptable and popular worldwide- the first is YOLO (you only live once) and the second is living as it’s the last day of life. Now it’s time for a new philosophy- learn from old people’s mistakes and use their experience in the youth.

To err is human but the one who learns from the mistakes of others is no doubt a better human. Let’s not parade our errors and then have a procession of regrets. It’s time to know what do old people miss and the ‘missed out’ moments that make them crestfallen.  The hard fact of life is that when we are young, we lack experience and when there is inundation of life experience, the youth goes away. Now, this new systematic maturing plan, just like your systematic investment plan will never let regrets snatch away the smile from you. All we need is knowing what do old people regret.

People in their elderly age face their evening of life with missing moments which they could have lived. ‘I could have done’ and ‘I could have lived that life’ become their daily words. Even the witty ones lived as silly as they’re never going to die but rather die as they have never lived.  They sometimes woe for their over- materialistic attitude which seems meaningless and jaded as they face their autumn of life. Only sometimes sickness bed makes it to realise that things like kindness were important than the wealth and fame to which all importance was given. Few of the things which senior people regret are caring too much about what others think, not caring about fitness, wasting time, having accomplished less, not following passion, not caring for loved ones and finally regretting for the regrets. The regrets of unaccomplished moments snatches away their lovely mornings and  thus those grey hairs become the synonym for their woes.

A slice of fruity advice for all regret makers-let few regrets be there to make yourself better but let’s not regret for the regrets we make. And dear experienced and  senior people- a man never grows old, rather he grows matured and precise. Sheer remorse doesn’t deserve to take your time away from you.

 

 

 

Is our role model also our forgotten hero?

Once a police officer dreamt of being an IAS officer. He started working for it and finally passed out. But within a couple of months, he was killed by his colleague. Even after cracking out the toughest exam over the country, he couldn’t live his dream of being an IAS officer. When he died, his daughter was a year old. As his daughter grew up, she considered her father as role model and strived to work hard. Her perseverance paid and she cracked IAS exam, topped in the country and very soon earned a name as one of the topmost IAS officers in the country. Had there not been any role model for her, she would have been nothing more than an ordinary person. The difference what a role model can make is much clearer.

The unbeatable parampara of ‘Guru-shishya’ of India is to be reminded by every youth and also the Indian value which says that guru is even greater than god is needed to be understood aptly to be a really smart individual. This can open doors for role models as they are nothing different than guru, either existing or ceased to exist, can surely teach us how to live.

We all grew up with a single question asked thousand times-‘What you want to be in life?’ No one asks us how better person you want to be or who’s your role model. It just sounds like giving a malaria patient an overdose of malaria tablets but lacking to give importance to nutritional diet. An overdose of anything doesn’t serve purpose either be a medicine to a patient or a question to a student.

What’s there between tears and love, dew and mountain, haziness and winter evenings is a bond that is unseperable. A similar relation is between strong personalities and role models that is undeniable too. History proves that almost every strong personality was strongly linked to a role model, whether it be Bhagat Singh to Kartar Singh Sarabha, Narendra Modi to Sardar Vallabh Bhai Patel, or Obama to Abraham Lincoln. When Kartar Singh Sarabha martyred in the age of 19 as a revolutionary, Bhagat Singh considered him as a role model and he martyred in the age of 23 with the same charisma, personality and in fact more popularity. No doubt when Modi idolised Sardar Vallabh Bhai and Obama idolised Lincoln, their respective role models, a tinge of strength entered in their personalities, and the strong personalities has given them successful careers.

Today’s society takes a lot from films. Movies become mirror of the society. Rajinification, Amitabhification or Salmanification can work out only for leisure hours but for inspirations and facing challenges we need a role model. Remember Sonam Kapoor played the role of Neerja Bhanot in a movie? Sonam Kapoor has become style icon over years and millions follow her in social media for her style statement. While Sonam Kapoor can show us to what and how to wear, we need to make Neerja Bhanot as our role model to teach us how to live. The gap between those who play roles and those who’re role models is to be kept in mind.

To end up, lets have a glance to a story. While hiding the fact that his father was a martyred soldier, mother of Rohan moved to an foreign country when he was just two. Rohan’s mother did not wanted Rohan to die like his father. Rohan grew up with values and a good level of education and was later employed in a good company. Soon he reached the designation of a CEO and was a pride moment for his widow mother. But when a relative told Rohan that his father was a martyred soldier, Rohan was totally dumbstruck. Later he regretted for years that had the fact not been hided, considering his dad his role model, he would have did something for his country, in some way. What Rohan lacked in early years is a role model in life and although doing well for his family, he couldn’t serve his country as his father did.

The world is in peak of connectivity where every man is connected to the other. All the world needs is to be connected to a role model. It’s time to focus on being focussed, make common sense more common and make sure that our life has role for a role model!

Talent can be in your blood, but undervaluing discipline cannot be your cup of tea!

When a fresh talent arrives, we all turn heads. There is fuss all around and the talent becomes the talk of the town. It puts the halo light on the person who used to be sitting somewhere in the audience. Yes, talent is worshipped because we all have this as a human nature. Let’s value talent as it entertains, thrills us. But where’s the topic of discipline? Is that hidden somewhere in the darkness in the hall where the halo light is just a small circle? Is discipline undervalued in the world of talent-hunt? In fact, a lot of talent is wasted due to dearth of discipline.  The juggernaut of talent is sure to be turbulent without the string of discipline. A work started with talent but lack of discipline might be like a sorcerer’s apprentice!

Lets guess examples of few successful people and how their lives might have been without a big sum of discipline. Well, there wouldn’t have been any Amitabh and Rajini in film industry. Amitabh might have strangled his progress with a zanjeer and we might just have seen him in television serials. There would not have been any Rajnification of South-India and Rajinikanth might have been selling movie tickets outside cinema theatres. Madhuri might been selling sarees of Sridevi and Hema style in her shop. And there wouldn’t had been any Reliance and Dhiru bhai might be relying on other companies for his job. The scenario of world would have been something else.

It’s time that our nation can give strong discipline lessons in schools and colleges( lets learn from Japan). We need to understand that where the tablet of talent doesn’t work, the dose of discipline is highly effective. Feeding youth with talent but no discipline is just like giving crocin to a malaria patient.

And being disciplined is more of a personal duty than to be learnt in schools or colleges. In the matter of discipline, we just need to say ourselves in filmy style that mard ko dard nahi hota. And bash your own laziness by saying, ‘yenna rascalas… just mind it- be disciplined’. Be a nation so that the world not only says that India’s got talent but also India’s got discipline!

 

 

 

Types of people you will meet in your life

Exactly as it is so difficult to measure the sky, so its too difficult to know how many varieties of minds are there it in this amazing world. Right from pain to pleasure, they give you several types of feelings. Not letting people play football with your heart, and just choosing your company with best possible, is your own duty. Here we are trying to describe the mindsets of a handful kind of people around us.

Jack of all trades: No doubt, we rarely meet such kind of people. They have so versatile mindset that they will never upset anyone in the matter of performance. They might not be actors, but even if someone gives them a chance in movies, they will not fail. Of all, they are the most enthusiastic persons you can meet in your lifetime.

Nonstop nonsense makers: Do you remember a person whom you would have started speaking joyfully but ended up in a guilt for why you have initiated such act? These stereotypes blabber all nonsense without hearing your opinion. That’s like you have asked your driver to turn towards a fine destination towards a hill-station but your groggy driver has turned towards an undesired and lonely jungle.

Happy always: While people turn hysterical in bad situations, there are few who have mastered the world’s greatest art of staying happy in every situation.

Late Latifs: Unfortunately, they start their day as it has no end. They sometimes rush in the mid of the day but still end up the day with lots of burden on their heads. With people calling them with all sort of funny names, they really try to cover up the time like  the cartoon character Tom which every time unsuccessfully used to chase Jerry.

Nosy neighbour: We know at least one person who intrudes suddenly in between the time you least expect. Their foray might seem friendly initially, but it might sometimes be expensive for you because such people rob your moments, just to create a fuss outside. So don’t just over-encourage their ingratiating grin!

Busy business bee: Sometimes without giving a minute to their family, and sometimes having lunch by eating big bites to save time for their business, we have seen these quirky guys who stir the balance of life. They are so busy running for money, that they suddenly feel that their children have grown up and they have missed the time which will never come back.

‘See you in court’ type: In a year or two, in public places like trains or roadways or sometimes in business places, you would find a guy who would remind you the law. Going to court for strenuous cases is okay , but even for little matters, they will unabashedly say the other that she/he will meet them soon in the court.

Rebel: The one who has been observed as a leader and no doubt, liked by many as a strong man/woman. He has a point of view, and never blindly follows the crowd. In other words he stands for something and never falls for ‘anything’. We have seen them while standing for causes, they never worry about the repercussions.

 

 

 

 

Welcome the dawn to your life!

That’s beautiful than bouquet of roses, mesmerizing than a dancing peacock, purer than a dew drop, brighter than full moon, lovelier than a rainbow, impeccable than a pearl, fresher than a breeze, powerful than a whirlwind, earlier than your alarm, and almost superior than everything! Well, that’s also momentary than the romantic date you had. Now, don’t scratch your heads too much! What’s that…? It’s the crack of dawn.

Early morning is one of the best gift of nature to us. Being active in the early morning is a super habit, yet half of us miss that us usually dawdling our heads lazily around the tempting pillow. Waking late, in fact, has already become a national crisis. And it’s time that we make changes before the situation ebbs to worse.

Waking-up late is like missing an important train in the journey of life. It means having a very bad morning. It questions the entire purpose of existence. Waking late means sleeping besides a hot, brewed and full-flavoured coffee and then waking-up and having a stale and tasteless coffee with its temperature down. Or it’s like entering your office with dozens of reluctant faces wishing you a ‘bad morning sir/madam’ in a flat tone. It’s like we are breathing, yet lifeless. Life becomes like a black and white movie or a non-sense song by a haphazard and untrained singer.

 

If you had been waking-up late, it’s time to peep out of your window, and if it’s a dawn, start as a new beginner. Wake-up early and work with energy and confidence like a bulldozer in the early morning and it will become mantra for your success. While others are fumbling in tooth-brush or have hardly raised their heads above pillows, you can finish your hours of work.

It’s time to try some ‘dawn-ing’ tips for you be a real morning person. Remember, the punchline lies in waking-up when it’s dawn and also your try for being an express train rather than a couch potato. Following are the ‘dawn-ing’ tips:

Meditate: As a legacy in India of thousands of years, it’s not only believed to have work wonders, but has also proved to work so.

Make a to-do list: It works as your itinerary in your journey of ‘work-life’. Those who make it, usually never forget their work and the efficiency escalates to higher levels.

Work-out: Person without workout or exercise is like daily running machines without oiling or greasing. Just we cannot imagine a happy, healthy,successful life without some workouts.

Be a powerhouse: Whatever you do in the morning, do in a mode of super-pace. Just remember, frequently yawning lips can never promise a great day. Moreover, your morning speed is always contagious. As you work with speed, you motivate others to work with speed.

Have a nice breakfast: Just charge your body with healthy, veg food in proper timing.  Yes your breakfast can be a vital factor which can decide your health. So be serious regarding breakfast, dear!

So, are you ready for some ‘dawn-ing’?

 

Personality traits of influential and simply irresistible people.

Just like diamonds beneath the earth surface shimmer as stars in the sky; like pearls seem to be miniature or true copy of moon; a flying bird has always been the symbol of human’s thoughts. Yet man’s thoughts had not been similar to any single kind of bird. Few think high like a flying eagle, few like to be mediocre level like a flying parrot, and some think only like hen which gives too short flight.  Birds those able to go high in the sky are able to fly more freely, similarly people those have high thinking live a better life and become more successful than those who don’t have. During rain, while all the birds fly hastily to find a shelter, eagle flies above the clouds to avoid rain. It’s equally true with humans- their attitude towards problems or their level of thinking decides the altitude they are going to touch in their life.

 

We can find a few whose attitude towards everything in life is above mediocre. Their soaring thinking touches the horizon in all times- happy, normal or tough. They are like sunflowers which never exhaust by sunlight or heat. They face problems, blossom and grow in their given situations. Their innate stash of virtues makes them cynosure of every eye.

They are aware of the fact that life is full of problems and imperfections, yet beautiful. The one who accepts and manoeuvres their attitude and work according to life’s imperfections lifts higher from being an average or a  ‘so-so’ one to a ravishing person with jazzy qualities.

In specific, they keep trying some ‘trait-ing’  that makes them influential and irresistible:

1. Their integrity is flawless: Their determination is as fire in their soul, yet their integrity and honesty is clear and flawless as a raindrop. Either in sports or business or any other field, they are genuine.
2. They don’t grumble and gossip:  We have seen people trickling their energy in grumbling, finding flaws everywhere and gossiping for their momentary satisfaction. Appealing people know to be a couple of steps away from such trash. They also avoid grudges and surround themselves in in the fresh air of positivity.
3. They are super-zealot: They live everyday to its fullest. They work with tonnes of energy and speak with fervour. They do everything with full enthusiasm and it spreads contagiously in the air! Steve jobs used to wake up at 6 and looking at the mirror, he would ask, ‘If this was the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am supposed to do today?’ And today we recall him as most innovative mind and his company is known as one of topmost in the world.
4. Perseverance is in their blood: They fall like everyone else, yet they work several times harder than before. Sweating makes their personality dazzling. We usually see them waking up early, utilizing the 86,400 seconds of the day to its utmost and working as there is no tomorrow.
5. They turn promises into commitments: The easiest job in the world is to promise, whereas the toughest is to turn promises into commitments. While many fall for promising but not committing, convincing people turn their promises into commitments.
6.  They fight when life throws odds: They not only know to smile and make others smile, but also to fight when life puts odds on them. The story of Neerja Bhanot is an outright example here. The popular 1980’s Indian model and flight attendant was known for smiling face and good nature, but later she fought with highly eerie situation when plane was hijacked to save hundreds of lives although she lost her life over the circumstance.
7. They live in the moment: Letting the yesteryear’s sand pass over the fingers and living in the moment is the magical funda that makes their personality effective. Former caption of the Indian cricket team, Mahendra Singh Dhoni has revealed several times that living in the moment is secret behind his success.
8. They are humble: They are aware of the fact that to err is human. They know that human is a statue of mistakes; hence they accept their mistakes and move on, rather than standing as egomaniacal ghosts. They do this ‘trait-ing’, which although sounds simple, but surely makes them different.
9. They are influential speakers: They grab eyeballs and turn heads when they speak. At times, they also open their bundle of words for the sake of humour and people burst out laughing.                                                           It’s time for us to try some ‘trait-ing’ to have an effective and influencing life!

 

 

 

 

Dealing with excuses and excuse makers

Keeping our head in the pillow of excuses is at the time of work is the thing we all have done in our lifetime. Even the most successful ones have made many excuses in their lives. But extraordinary excuses have made more hazard to the world than the disease of cancer has ever made. This man- made excuse, like termite, destroys all our dreams slowly and finally man makes flying like a hen while he was to fly as an eagle. The worst deal mankind has ever made is using some quirky excuses versus invaluable and unstoppable time machine. When your mind starts pouring excuses on all the work you are going to do, it’s better to train your mind than facing a blitzkrieg of excuses during important work hours. Here are few set of rules that can keep your excuses at bay:

1. The best way to evaporate excuses from your head is to do things you love. Fall in love with your work and change your outlook.
2. Learn to say ‘no’. Because committing many things at a time will end up in making you the worst manager of time. Apply the Warren Buffett funda – ” the difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people almost say ‘no’ to everything.”
3. Write a future self letter. That will keep you going. A survey has shown that people who write their goals are more successful than people who don’t. Make your letter the wallpaper of your computer or mobile.
4. Wake up early and plan your day.
5. Remember YOLO (you only live once) philosophy. Live everyday as it’s the last day of your life.
6. Write up all your wishes. Now select the top three important ones. Focus your energy on those three and leave the other.
7. Stay away from negative people or energy suckers                                                                               It’s an important step to stay away from people who stay negative always and exhaust others’ energy. They make better situations bitter and give ready reasons for every incomplete work they do. They start criticising by finding flaws in people, find mistakes in government and  it’s governance in their mid-conversation and later conclude that nothing can be done to improve the nation and all hopes have vanished. They have several cups of coffee reasoning that it’s their way to get rid of headaches and every tension in their life. And unfortunately if they don’t get any topic to criticise, they start cursing the weather. They create negativity in and hence it’s better to loose their company. Their thoughts are whirlpool of problems thus the description of their mind-set is: One they don’t allow their children to play saying that they might get hurt. Two, they think sun only rises to produce sweat and make them exhaust. Three, they don’t live the present moment in the feeling that they would die one day. Four, they negatively guide teenagers and youth describing  hundreds of reasons why they can’t reach their goals.                                                                             We need to have an excuse-free mind and excuse-free atmosphere. Excuse-free mind by training it and excuse-free atmosphere by staying away from negative folks. As the saying goes- ” you have to do a very few things right in your life so long as you don’t do too many things wrong”.. and you can see the world with wide open eyes- life is so beautiful!

 

Live your 30s to win

Time moves like a superfast flying machine. Pages of calendars turn like wings of a helicopter and soon blooming January becomes heart-broken December. Silly, stylish and intriguing 20s says good bye to us forever and the new morning of 30s enters our life. Peeping through our windows and knocking our doors, the sunrise of our 30s enters our lives with joyful breeze and chirping birds. 30s enters as a season of hope, optimism and colourful cheer. We suddenly find ourselves in the crossroads of responsibilities one side and unaccomplished dreams on the other.

Usually, as Mr 20s, we make mistakes, sometimes very silly. As an inexperienced person, we make wrong decisions. The most common mistake we make as Mr 20s is that we choose career which fills our empty pockets but we oversee our passion. We make the thoughtless mistake of marrying chemistry while we are in love with literature. Here’s where Mr 30s have an edge over Mr 20s. Mr 30s makes logical decisions. As Mr 30s, we have another chance, rather better, to live up to our dreams.

30s is perfect cocktail of 50 percent youth and 50 percent responsibility. So if you have the conscience to be free from the overthinking of what you have not achieved in earlier age and what all you think you have lost, then you can make up your mind to have a great decade ahead for successful journey. Considering some of the points below in 30s will make your life full of joy and zeal.

Change little things in your life. Small things in life make big difference. Never puzzle yourself in hustle-bustle. Hustle- bustle cannot be your cup of coffee when you have touched 30. Relax! Never make a commitment which ruins your mental peace. Let the hiccups of hesitation go away! Let the sand of yesteryears pass away through your fingers. Let the bad memories fade away. Question yourself whether the way you are going will really lead you towards the goal of your life.

Second, trying best for staying healthy in this age can be a very wise decision of your life. Exercising in this age means prevention of several diseases. Exercising late can only cure your diseases. So it’s wise to start exercising and eat nutritious if you have not taken care before. And caring for your teeth will surely make you smile years later. So stay wise when it’s matter of your health.

Third, be a responsible pilot of your journey. Being in mid-way of your life is like being pilot of a flight which has already taken off. Like a pilot of a flight which has already taken off, we cannot deny our responsibilities. Our parents, spouse and children expect a lot from you. Take care of your parents. Never miss a chance to talk with them. And remember your children watch you every time, they want to become as you are. Life is always like a tennis match- the one who serves well, wins. And remember it starts with ”luv all”.

Fourth, use the pinnacle of your form. The insights of the stories of successful people shows that a person is in top of his form when he is in his 30s or early 40s. We stay in undeniable advantage of being experienced as well as energetic. Recall your favourite cricketers hitting centuries or your favourite actors giving their best films. You will find most of them in this age. Also, we need to remember, being in form requires substantial hard work.

Fifth, we need to be in our receiving mode or well prepared to grab the opportunities in mid-age. It’s important to recognise the concept of opportunities and stay in receiving mode, says writer Sfurti Sahare. Staying in receiving mode means practising well what you want to be, so that when actual opportunity arrives, you are in position to receive or grab the opportunity.

There is a long-list of people who started their journey of super-success in their 30s. Amitabh Bachchan, Dhirubhai Ambani, Steve Jobs, Abraham Lincoln, Chetan Bhagat and J.K.Rowling are few of them. Just sigh, plan and go ahead for making your story successful.

Meet the daughter of India – Kinjal Singh — Site Title

When tiny, silly Kinjal Singh used to ask her mother Vibha Singh, ”where is my father”, she would evasively avoid it by saying ”wo chaand par chale gaye”. Little did Kinjal know that her father was killed when she was only five months old. On the black night of 12-13 March 1982, K.P.Singh, Kinjal’s father was killed […]

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Meet the daughter of India – Kinjal Singh

When tiny, silly Kinjal Singh used to ask her mother Vibha Singh, ”where is my father”, she would evasively avoid it by saying ”wo chaand par chale gaye”. Little did Kinjal know that her father was killed when she was only five months old. On the black night of 12-13 March 1982, K.P.Singh, Kinjal’s father was killed in a fake encounter by his own colleagues. Although K.P.Singh passed his IAS exams, his eyes closed up forever with many unaccomplished dreams. He could’nt live up as to become an IAS officer.

When peers were out for playing, Kinjal along with her mother used to travel to the supreme court in Delhi from her home in U.P. Vibha, a brave mother, got a job in Varanasi treasury. She did her best to educate Kinjal and her younger daughter Pranjal, who was born seven months after K.P.Singh’s death.

Kinjal studied hard along with her up and down visits with her mother, to the supreme court from her home in U.P. Her hard work continued while she was in lady shri ram college but the road yet was not smoother for the two sisters. Their mother got diagnosed with cancer and shook Kinjal and Pranjal, who already lost their father. After the battle with cancer, Vibha died peacefully as she got sure that both her daughters were going to become IAS officers and also going to get justice for their father’s death. As being emotionally strong, Kinjal never carried the load of bad memories while she studied. She wrote her college exam mere two days after the death of her mother and secured an outstanding first rank in the college. After mother’s death, as the two sisters had no other family members, they used their vacations to study in the college itself, while other students went to their homes for enjoying vacations.

While many break down in adversities, there are few who break records. Kinjal Singh secured 25th rank in all India IAS exam in 2008 and Pranjal Singh secured 252nd.Thirty one years later, on 4 March 2013, justice was provided to K.P.Singh with three police personnel given the capital punishment and five others were given lifetime imprisonment by the CBI special court.

Kinjal is the warrior of new India, armed with self confidence, clear conscience, dedication to duty and power of education.Working as DM in Lakhimpur district, she created waves with. Today, her name alone creates turmoil in the head of even the most notorious criminals. Her story grabbed millions of eyeballs. So proud to describe, the treasure of courage she received in heritage from a brave mother and strong-hearted, honest father. We zealously celebrate her heydays and as a nation salute the family.

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